Thursday, September 17, 2009

Breaking Down

"And then I felt sad because I realized that once people are broken in certain ways, they can't ever be fixed, and this is something nobody ever tells you when you are young and it never fails to surprise you as you grow older as you see the people in your life break one by one. You wonder when your turn is going to be, or if it's already happened."
-
Douglas Couplan

When we are young, we always see the world through rose-colored glasses. We think everything around is absolutely perfect.
However, as we grow up, we realize there are many things which just look good in story-books or in movies...
In real life, "honesty is not the best policy" nor does "truth always triumph". The whole concept of a "happily ever after" existed only "once upon a time" when we were small...

When we grow up, we are burdened with so many responsibilities. We do not even have the time to do things we like and we end up doing things which we never wanted to do in the first place! There are times when we realize that we are actually at a dead end but we still remain in that place and don't make a U-Turn because taking the whole road back and starting from scratch does not seem to be a very comfortable idea.
Teenagers are always called 'rebellious' but being passionate and standing up for things we truly believe in does not seem wrong to me. As we grow up, we sober down and conform to what society wants us to be - and end up killing our individuality.
The other day I was reading the book Veronika Decides to Die by Paul Coelho - there was one part which struck me...as a mental patient in an asylum, one is free to say what one wants; one can do what they want - they will never be criticized - but once we are outside, we have to behave in a certain way, think before speaking and we cannot do something just because we feel like doing it!

There are many times my mother tells me "You are growing up now. Behave like a lady." I am sure all of us have heard such dialogues from our elders at some point of time or the other. I find it exasperating! Just because I am growing up I do not have to stop liking the things I liked before!
As I grow up, I realize I just want to be the little girl I was - away from the harsh realities of life! I do not want to be moulded into someone I am not...I just hope this world lets me be...

12 comments:

Yellow Tulip said...

:)..hmmm interesting:...

STEPHEN TEA said...

THANKS FOR CHANGING THE FORMAT...MUCH EASIER TO READ NOW. AGAIN, LET ME SAY I TRULY ADMIRE YOUR ONGOING EFFORTS TO UNDERSTAND, AND GROW WISELY ... STAY THE COURSE, AND WHISTLE AT THE CLOUDS...

Sapphire said...

@Yellow Tulip
Thank You :) Hope you drop in more often :D

@Stephen
Thanks again - sorry about the format earlier :P

Being Pramoda... said...

HI Sapphire,

When our life is meant to change, we are ought to change our interests and happiness priorities...Its inevitable, no one can get the childhood memories back, but every one can enjoy every day to its fullest...just find ur happiness in things around u and live life ..:)

Have a colourful life..:)

Guria said...

Thanks for visiting MM. :)

So a week more of being a teenager huh? :)

I love the philosophy you share, illuminating and mighty introspective for a girl your age. I specially liked your About Me.

See ya around! :)

Sapphire said...

Hey Pramoda!
Hope you are having a nice time at home :) I know change is inevitable but I feel change should come from within and not because people around you expect you to change....always succumbing to what people say does kill your individuality, according to me...and once we start becoming what others want us to be, we get so lost that it becomes extremely difficult to discover who we really are!!

@Guria
Your welcome - it was wonderful reading your blog :)
And yes - just a week more :( Am all freaked out!! And thank you for your lovely words :)

divsi said...

hehe! first tym here frm rimz blog:) a word bout yr post...
evryone of us heres dat...bout growing up..:) lemme tel u " growing OLD is mandatory..but growing UP is optional" :p always rem that!

Sapphire said...

Hey Divsi!

Thanks for dropping by and will definitely remembre that :) :)

- Sugar Cube - said...

"Just because I am growing up I do not have to stop liking the things I liked before!"

Certainly not! Don't do that! I have such kiddish habits & likings that sometimes my friends wld make fun of it..but as long as it keeps me happy..I don't give two hoots about how other take it.

Don't wait for the world to let be you ..do things your way.One day it'll be a news..the next day it'll get old.Why bother so much.

"The whole concept of a "happily ever after" existed only "once upon a time" when we were small..."
Very true :)

Sapphire said...

@SugarCube
Yeah - I do many kiddish things to - I always want a Happy Meal if I go to McD much to the agony of my friends - they refuse to stand in queue and ask for a HappyMeal for me :D I don't care but I wish people did not expect you to shrug off some habits just coz you're growing a year older!!!

Lin said...

You should always stay true to yourself & never change who are to please society or anyone else. I'm 26, live an adults life but still act like a teen every now & then.

Enjoy every moment.

And I think I'm definitely going to have to read 'Veronika Decides to Die', it sounds like a great book :)

Sapphire said...

@Lin
Hi! Thank you for visiting - do read it :) It is a lovely book :D

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